Civility

September 26, 2025 Vivian Fang

文明

I read a section of Christine Porath's “Mastering Civility” during breakfast. The book is in Chinese, so below are my translations.

“Impolite, rude, or disrespectful behaviour is like a bad virus that spreads around…and has a ripple effect with a negative impact on everyone.”

“If someone treats you rudely or is disrespectful to you, you don't have to retaliate….you can choose to be civilized and keep your manners up…your politeness will 'suppress or cover' the rude behaviour of others and leave a smaller impact on you….”

Do you have rude people around you? They can be school or office bullies who are not civilized.

Keep your civility up and hang in there.

I have no patience for rude, impolite, disrespectful people. I don't care if they are a powerful bully.

I look down on them, and this is why: if you can't keep your cool and stay professional and polite, I think you have personally disqualified yourself from anything with positive meaning.

早餐的時候方方翻了一本書《禮貌的力量》，這是一本九月初我在書局買的書，當初看到書名，進而翻了兩下時，腦裡跳出一大堆需要閱讀此本書的人。

中間有兩段方方想跟大家分享。

「無禮就像病毒一樣具傳播性，讓暴露在其下的人感到異常難受…看似毫不起眼的善良之舉或粗魯行為，都會在社群引發漣漪效應⋯」

「有人用粗魯無禮的言行對待你，並不表示你一定要以牙還牙⋯⋯你可以把禮貌當成回應，而禮貌的回應則會「覆蓋掉」對方相魯的言行，降低此事對你的影響力。」

你身邊也有無理又無禮的人嗎？請你加油、堅強面對。

說真的，我一直覺得「以禮待人」是很重要的。

如果以文明、禮貌這麼基本的態度與人相處都做不到，我不禁懷疑這個人到底還能勝任什麼有正向意義的事？

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